Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. –Corinthians
I went to a wedding anniversary celebration of my friends and supporters Andrea and Marcel from the Slovak Republic recently. This famous wedding passage above was read.
My eyes watered upon hearing this beautiful passage that day here in Mountain View, California. It’s a reminder of the strength and fragility of all this. It sums up the greatness of the journey of their 10 years of marriage.
But also my journey as a writer. It’s the right affirmation of the heart and mindset you need if you want to create anything enduring and rich as the protagonist of your own story as a writer.
Writing a novel takes all of the above. You have to apprentice yourself to the attributes of patience and kindness.
Patience to work hard and keep churning ahead every day.
Kindness to yourself. You have to be kind and praise your efforts. There’s joy in that.
My wife Teofila is as reluctant as Michelle Obama has been at times to be a public figure in helping her husband, Barrack.
I’ve been married 21 years and sometimes it’s very tough. But there is one time now when my wife truly comes alive.
That’s when I’m meeting with readers of Working the Glass: A Novel.
She takes pictures, engages with fans with stories, and then after a while, when it keeps coming, she takes it all in with amazement. I can see it in her face.
They say things like they loved the story and stayed up late to read it. Others say they were sad to see it end and want me to write more.
Many readers are emboldened to meet you after reading the novel.
How times do you feel compelled to meet the author after reading their book? It’s a real honor to hear this! I love it.
I shake hands, tell stories, answer their questions, sign books and take pictures. I lose myself in the process very much like the peak experience moments I find in writing. Or even further back, playing basketball!
To my wife, here is the manly hero using his guile and magic to slay the dragons. For a few hours, the world obeys and conspires in his magic. There’s greatness in this, she would say.
This is the great thing about being married to writer!
Love is patient, love is kind.
Don’t forget that.
A basketball star from Chicago’s Czech neighborhoods seizes his last chance at basketball glory by impersonating his Australia-bound brother on a struggling Czech superliga team mid-way through their season.